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• Book Name: Reclaiming conversation
• Authors:  Sherry Turkle
• Pages: 300
• Publish Date:  6 October 2015
• Language: English
  
• Genre: self-Help Book

Summary:

Summary of Reclaiming Conversation by Sherry Turkle specializes in the arrival of digital devices that draw our attention far away from interpersonal situations, tickle contends that we must strive to recover the lost art of authentic conversation 

She connects conversation to positive human qualities and virtues including empathy love and focused awareness proposing practical actions readers can fancy train these essential features of communication

She also puts forward a critique of the digital age at large showing that increased connection through mediating technologies ironically divides and alienates certain parts of folks 

The book has been lauded for identifying many key problems with the technologies modern societies deemed granted debunking the notion that unbridled technological advancement is necessarily good

Turkle opens with the overall claim that technology has changed civilization dramatically for better and for worse the main reason the technology isn't unilaterally good in her view is that it stunts our human need for conversation.

Beginning loneliness and anxiety this deficiency dampens our ability to place ourselves in other shoes 

She argues that one among the good challenges of the digital age is going to be deciding the way to get our conversational abilities back 

Tuckle's first supporting argument for her claim about our diminished conversational abilities is that digital media simply cannot substitute for a real in-person conversation 

Humans require authentic face-to-face connections to know and relate to every other

Data communication doesn't provide the vulnerability and real-time responsiveness required for key social abilities to manifest 

She cites many studies that demonstrate that cell phones diminish conversations topical depth length and corresponding feelings of closeness empathy and trust 

Studies have even found that the presence of muted cell phones substantively impairs how people communicate usually steering speech content into superficial directions 

Conversely studies comparing different interaction styles have found that face-to-face interaction is strongly correlated with stronger emotional bonds tickle asserts

That times of reflection and solitude are vital but neglected components of human well-being

The most reason for his or her erasure from modern life has been the proliferation of devices that bring endless streams of media before our eyes on demand 

Moreover she makes a key distinction between real solitude which consists of a meditative state of focused awareness and therefore the time we spend alone consuming media from digital devices

Developmental psychologists have found that our deepest thoughts the thoughts that make us ourselves only occur once we are completely undistracted 

Where loneliness divides and distracts us true solitude activates parts of our brain that translate experience and emotion into our core identities

Tuckel suggests that the disintegration we feel in modern life is thanks to our confusing loneliness as solitude 

To help nurture solitude in young developing minds tickle presents an important for folks to urge off their own phones to attend to their kids

She argues that how parents communicate with their children is one of the foremost foundational parts of childhood development

Childhood presents a critical window for learning to speak closely and for developing empathy 

Studies show that when parents ignore their children they have a tendency to get older to be less empathetic 

Turkle also cites studies that appear to undermine the utility of digital intimacy solutions like dating apps 

In one study one group was allowed to settle on from a huge array of chocolates another was allowed to settle on from a way more restricted range 

The participants who chose from the restricted set perceived the chocolates as more satisfying 

The vast space of choices whether for a sexual partner or a computer game that phones now present us with diminishing our capacity to save her and remember our experiences

She suggests that virtual environments are generally blameworthy because they're conducive to attention scattering and superficial communication 

Turkle concludes by suggesting that only by looking beyond the fat of digital media can we see what our society is basically craving 

She recommends that her readers make sacred spaces in their lives where they nurture interpersonal connection and completely exclude their devices 

She suggests also that a conversation renaissance might help the state of political discourse within us by freeing up people's attention to speak about the problems that directly affect them 

Reclaiming conversation may be a hopeful book outlining how we will teach ourselves to show far away from technology to embrace the critical features of being human conversations matter 

The conversation is on the trail toward the experience of intimacy community and communion reclaiming conversation may be a step toward 

Reclaiming our most fundamental human values our devices are creating a world during which true conversation is rare 

Conversation requires undivided attention to a different person or group of individuals staying engaged when things get a touch boring and slogging through the unknown and uncomfortable 

Conversations include both being heard and listening to they require full presence we learn to converse as children both by learning to be alone and by learning to be together

We learn through quiet unhurried time with our parents when they're with us fully 

Our devices are changing our relationship to the conversation they encourage distraction when even slightly bored we attend the device 

We are available and out of the conversation parents check emails when we're with their babies meaning that they are doing not get our undivided attention and perhaps not tons of our eye contact 

Young adults learn to text instead of speak meaning that their conversation is mediated plan they create their personas carefully and take far less risk 

Conversations are powerful we create new thinking through conversation build things that are bigger than anybody folks alone create deep and abiding connections become happier 

Through conversation we understand people developing the capacity for true 

Empathy studies show a precipitous decline within the capacity for empathy among the generation that's being raised with smartphones 

We are losing the power to steer in another person's shoes because we aren't talking learn to be alone and together 

One of the four most powerful claims made by tekkel is that in solitude we discover ourselves and that the capacity to be alone is critical to the capacity to be together

It's also critical to the capacity to be creative and productive the degree to which we've lost that capacity is alarming in moments of quiet we address our phones we don't allow ourselves to urge board 

We are always connecting always on finding alone time embracing solitude may be a critical initiative in reclaiming conversation 

Techel posits that the increasing interest in mindfulness meditation may be a response to this a recognition that we'd like to find out to turn off

She suggests that there are other ways to be alone as well and it's critical that we develop and or reclaim that capacity in ourselves Be intentional about technology and conversation.

The world's largest call provider employed by 85%of fortune 100 firms studied what people do during meetings 65% do other work 63% send email 55% eat or make food 47% go the toilet and 6% take another call 

By being honest about our vulnerability to the decision of our phones and other devices we can begin to style our lives and our workplaces to support meaningful conversation 

While this is often easier in physical workspaces no device meetings plan social time and spaces active mentorship programs supported face-to-face meetings 

We also got to find ways to figure virtually together in ways in which promote true connection 

Remember the facility of your phone it's not an adjunct it's a psychologically potent device that changes not just what you're doing but who you are 

Few books I've read in recent years have left me so uncomfortable then committed to doing things differently

Turkle has forced me to be honest with myself about my very own device habits and to note my almost grown children's habits and ask them to note also.

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